The Power Of Being Concerned With Yourself- is really taking your power back and looking after it within yourself. Then I use the word you - I use it as a generic term not meaning anyone in specific. I would like to share a message today. All my messages brew for some time until it's clear and I connect all the dots for myself and then I feel ready to share it. I just realised how little I am concerned with what people tell me what they think I should be doing. It wasn't always the way. I was definitely a people pleaser and validation seeker so of course, then people would tell me you shouldn't be doing that or you should be doing this because that what you need and that's the way. It used to have an effect on me. You know that feeling of not getting it right. I was concerned with everyone's opinions and how should my life be and what should I be doing instead of really focusing what is it I need to be doing and what is it I want for myself. Rather than focusing inwards, I was seeking external validation. However, a beautiful thing happened I got aware that I was doing so. The more I got concerned with myself and constantly checking in with myself. The opinions of others what they think they know did no longer matter and another beautiful thing I am not concerned what others need to be doing for them selfs, in general, no longer matter. I use to explain and explain and explain what I am trying to do and prove myself to others and I no longer need that validation seeking has disappeared as I know inside what is it I need to be doing and the need of explaining just disappeared. That's all it is, it is just not there. I can't even be bothered and it is a very freeing feeling. There is a lot of talk about mirroring each other. And recently I had to ask that myself then I was being challenged about myself is that judgement of me and telling me what to do and what is it I really need... is that mirroring something to me that I haven't dealt with? And the answer was a big NO! It's a big misconception that we are mirrors of one another. It is ONLY mirrored back to us if we get triggered. However, if we know that it is not ours and it has no effect on us it is not a mirror. We can be mirrors for others and vice-versa there are lessons to be learned everywhere but it doesn't mean that everyone we meet is mirroring something back to us and it becomes very clear then we get concerned with ourselves. I attended Super Power Live in London last weekend and I learned a lot! Thank You I am Creators Team. I went with no expectations and one of the messages I have taken home is that the biggest part of our lives is the things we don't know that we don't know what we don't know :) There is a fine line then we make suggestions and brainstorm with friends who needs help and looking for advice and just trying to see if there are different options available that they might haven't thought of. Between us thinking that we know what they need to be doing. I have written a blog post about advice before if you not asked for one then it is not needed. Telling people what they should be doing it comes from our own place of conditioning. I recently spoke a lot about self-acceptance ad then we accept ourselves we start accepting others. However recently, I had someone telling that I am this and I am that and that is coming from a place of fixing also been told that I need to travel by myself to discover myself... well noooo thank you but no :) That's not the message I share and if this message is not clear then it's nothing to do with me. We have to support each other without expectations what others need to be doing because at that very moment we aren't concerned with ourselves and we trying to shape others through our own perspective. Let's be our each other's light and support for whatever path we choose to take without trying to put our way of thinking because it is not needed. That's the Beauty and Power of being self-concerned.
As the vaginas are one most precious parts in female bodies why not start looking after it better? Vaginas have 9 thousand nerve endings out of 27 thousand in the body. Personally, I think it is a pretty fascinating fact! Anything goes near it has to be good and kind and gentle as it is very precious! Quite a few years back I bought organic cotton pads different ones than in the picture but with the same values as Kind Organic to look after female health. And on the packing it was written that it does not contain bleach. At that point, I was totally clueless and the first thing came to my mind was the question does the main convenient brands I have been using for years contain bleach? After that my next question is why ...? So yeah turns out that the pads I have been using since I was a teenager from all the big supermarkets we trust to shop contain all sorts of nasty ingredients. It does not list ingredients on the packaging I guess because they don't have to but it is not difficult to find on their websites I guess they have to be transparent somewhere where no one is looking. Why on earth someone would even think to look for ingredients for pads but it turns out we really should. The more aware as consumers we will be of what we are using for our vaginas the better. The less we buy of toxic female personal care big toxic brands will be forced to rethink of things they are putting in the making. Pads and tampons are one of the things we use monthly for several days and I can just imagine how much waste of it goes in the landfills being kind to our vaginas would help the environment too. I love Kind Organics and the fact that they made it to bigger retailers so it is easier to find them. Unfortunately, the rest of the supermarket shelves contain mainly toxic items. And my least favorite is the perfumed ones! Let's be kind to ourselves and our environment by being aware of what we use is the first step of improving our wellbeing and surroundings.
Self Love becoming quite a topic of mine. I have written a blog post before about Self Love called: Self Love: life without guilt or shame, self-doubt or never being good enough. I was having a drink with a friend last night and felt quite an advocate for femininity, self-love, self-respect, looking after yourself and counting yourself accountable for own choices. Then I use the word yourself I mean each and everyone including me. Life is all about choices we have tough days, tough weeks or even tough years but at the end of the day, we decide how we going to get through it! The last couple of weeks wasn't easy for me but I wake up every morning making that choice not always easy but a choice to have a good day anyway. I am showing gratitude and appreciation for opportunities coming my way. It is something to be excited about right?!
For example, I am grateful that Joseph&Stacey gifted me this beautiful super trendy bag of my choice to write a review about it. I just want to say big Thank You I love it and it was super nice and easy to collaborate with you guys! This bag suits me and my style so well basically I am also grateful that I have good taste! I also had a hair cut. I always tend to cut my hair short then I need some changes it's something about the association with hair cut and losing weight off the shoulders.
My main main message here is that doing something for yourself no matter how big or small it is, does not mean spending money it could be writing yourself a love letter, meditating, having a walk, taking a long bath or dancing by yourself with a set intention: I am doing this for me as I love myself makes all the difference. I think it is a path to a happier and healthier life no matter how bumpy road is.
With Love
This blog
post has been brewing for a while most likely just over 2 years. About two
years ago I said bye-bye little sucker to my BRA! In two years I can't say that
I have never worn it but it is definitely been a very few times. It has started
after watching a documentary about breast health and how bras to squash lymph
nodes around the breasts and ditching a bra and reducing wearing time reduces
risk to get breast cancer. ( I am not mentioning documentary and can't say this
is a fact and this blog post is not about this documentary it is just how it
started ;) ) So after watching this documentary my mind was just questioning it
all. I thought to myself I could reduce bra time so I started wearing less at
home and started not wearing it during weekends. At a time I was feeling
soooooooo self-conscious I thought everyone can see that I am not wearing a bra
and that everyone KNOWS. I use to ask my partner at the time how does it
look? Can he tell? Do my boobs look OK?!.... Now it is quite funny for
me. Do my boobs look OK?! What sort of question is that :))? I know the
answer now myself THEY ARE FUCKING BEAUTIFUL! It was most likely quite
annoying for him at a time for me to bombard him with so many self-conscious
questions. Luckily I am far away from feeling this way. The weird thing was
then I first started leaving the bra on weekends at home I felt so naked and
breast felt bouncy rolling all around not being in a place you know the
feeling right? It was just weird unusual and quite embarrassing in some
ways. After several weekends I thought OK I could potentially go to work
without bra :)) and I was freaking out at the time but I wanted to
do it I knew it was the way to go for me. Imagine how would you feel going to
work and leaving a BRA at home? How do you feel about this idea..? I wear fully
covering appropriate clothing and it should not ever be a problem leaving a
bra at home but it is. It is somehow expected of women to wear bras right? Why?
Really why so that boobs don't bounce? It is totally natural for breasts to
bounce it is a completely natural body part why to strap it like that? Of course, there is that we want to boost them look higher than they actually are it
is kind of misleading isn't it but this blog post is not about this either :).
Anyway, slowly I have started not wearing bras at work and pretty much stopped
wearing it all together. Then a weird thing
happened, my breasts feel exactly the same way if I would wear a bra, now I
feel no different than before, actually, I think they are sturdier than it used
to be. Underneath breasts there are muscles. It is not logical if muscles are
continuously resting on the bra how is it supposed to work? I can
assure you I have no negative affects ditching bra away only positive full
stop. :)
If I put my bra on I can't wait to get it
off as it is soooo uncomfortable! And that leads me to my childhood memory how
I got my first bra YEEY:)))). Do you remember your story? I was probably
about age 10-12 I was totally comfortable not something I was thinking about so
basically I got pointed out by someone that my breasts are showing and I should
start wearing bras. Yep, that's embarrassing!!! People are cruel without knowing
it. So I went home all embarrassed that I haven't got a bra on and that
my small boobies which at a time was just starting to show were too big not to
get extra coverage. So in a way, I got shamed and that's something needs to be
hidden. So I convinced my Mama that I need a bra as I remember she
didn't think I needed one yet not even sales assistant in the shop I got size 0
but you know it's started showing and people noticed so I had to get one there
was no other way nor that there is now you got pair sticking out so you got to wear one right? And I remember getting used to wearing bras took the time it was
uncomfortable until I could not live without one for about 15 years! I
understand that now times are different and most likely girls can't wait to put
one on as they are such a cute accessory. I don't wear bras but I can't say
they don't appeal to me they definitely marketed the right way that's
for sure as it has so much sex appeal and sex sells as we know.
The nipple is another funny thing, especially
on Instagram. If man and women would take a picture topless man can show their
nipples as much as they like right? But if women show their nipples oh no
no no hell no we can't it would definitely get blocked by Instagram. So
what's the difference? Everyone got nipples in different sizes, colours and
shapes so why on earth women have to hide theirs? The nipple is a nipple we all
have them! If you haven't seen one have a look at your chest feel free to
explore it further might discover something... a NIPPLE! :)
Where I am going with this blog post is
about self acceptance without body shame. I am not saying that everyone should
stop wearing one I know it won't happen I just want people to look at it from
different perspective maybe you will realise you do't need one as it is not
essential and actually not important at all and we are just simply conditioned
into wearing one. WE HAVE THE CHOICE! To be fear I never knew it was
optional not to wear one as I was made to believe I have to wear one.
Now, I have made conscious choice not to. As we know everything is a
choice we just unaware of them.
How did I come by to write this blog post?
I got inspired actually at work. I was just telling my 3 female colleges that I
bought quite expensive knickers and they told me I could have got whole set
with a bra for that much and I simply said I don't wear bras! They looked quite
surprised and I asked if they noticed and of course they said
Noooo :). And as you can imagine I was asked few questions and comments like
that breasts will go down. Well they will go down with bra or without one it's
only natural for that I suppose only surgery would help. It was quite fun
conversation and few years’ back I would have been surprised myself, how someone
can not wear bra!!! Well, things definitely have change!
My blog title came from talking with my male
friend about this upcoming blog post. We talked freely about pretty much
everything which is supper fun! And I am all about being body
positive. Embracing my femininity (it is a super power just saying :)
) and encouraging others to do the same. Finding inner peace and
self acceptance and accepting that we are different from man and from
other women none of us ever the same and embracing the differences and
celebrating it, but don't mistaken that for not being feminist. I do
stand for female rights and living without shame. I guess that could be whole
new blog post on the subject. I just wanted to cover the title a little bit.
Final thoughts on the subject, I hope
after reading this short article you will be open to the idea that we
were all conditioned to wear bras and made self conscious if we haven't
got one which is totally wrong on so many different levels for
instance that as females we should be hiding our goods. Just to let you know
they are there for the reason :) Anyway whatever you take away from reading
this, know that everyone has a choice in EVERYTHING.
With LOVE,
Justina
Spring Outfit blog post is going to be quite different from the last couple of posts and what I am planning to write:) I am giving a little hint here! I got loads of ideas recently! I think they are amazing but I got to keep a little secret here:) ( because it's not quite ready yet :) but I like a little bit of tease .. so hey ho:). This is my favourite outfit at the moment. Probably, because I have been embracing my sexy cool self a lot lately. :) I have been looking into crystals and crystal properties and my moonstone necklace is my current favourite accessory. I got it for myself to celebrate my periods but in the end, I loved it so much so I started wearing it every day.
Suddenly, I just remembered that I have written a blog post on periods before so I think I will need to write another one soon as I got a completely new perspective on the subject! That's exciting! Just came up with a new idea on future blog post even though I was going to keep this one super light and simple :)
Just a little bit on Moonstones and then BYE BYE for now. They come in a few different colours and I think mine comes on the pink moonstone category ( I am not an expert I might be wrong). I think all women should wear or have moonstone in their life's as it has deeply feminine energy about it. Helps to bring balance. improves confidence and apparently its a master healer for women. And the main thing is it is super cute! :)
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I just wanted to share a little experience I had it is little but at the same time, it is huge! I have been having lots of ideas here and there what I should do but it never came together as one piece. Recently, I have stopped rushing just taking things as it is and accepting myself and lots of aspects of my life. And let me tell you it has been quite a journey and weird enough I am happy to get on this life's road as it comes and bit by bit I started putting my puzzle together. And one of these days there I could have been doing anything I chose to spend time with myself and just doing my own thing reading, listening to music, watching YouTube channel that my friend sent to me and then in that peace and silence finally my idea was born! I finally have a clear vision with no frustration with myself why I can't figure it out. It just came and I welcomed it! I was so happy that I got dancing and crying with relief and joy! It was such a special moment I felt like I got into my enlightenment at that specific moment. Now, I just need to be brave. I am brave and so are you. We all just need to see that and our dreams will come true.
LOVE
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I am not talking about self-love as seeing ourselves through pink glasses. I am talking about accepting ourselves as we are, with full awareness but no judgement. When we look at ourselves we might don't like what we see, we might want to hide from it and suppress the bad traits, we might even discover that what we been told never been the truth for us. Self Love: life without guilt or shame, self-doubt or never being good enough. Isn't that good thing a good life...? Sprinkling joy and love on us and all around us :) I feel like I would never judge anyone if someone would say loud and clear to everyone as bluntly as: ''I love myself so much''! :) would you judge them if we all know that we need to love ourselves? LOVE is a basic need for everyone it's like the air we breathe so why don't we give it to the most important human and the rest will feel it too.
Love and peace to all of you! I think I will definitely write about this topic again as I forgot half of what I was going to say but I am sure it will come back to me:)
Love, Justina
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When life falls apart some would say: ''if life gives you lemons make lemonade''... Probably when life falls apart we start looking for inspirational quotes and looking and doing everything to make us feel better and happier. Looking for something or anything... drinking and going out and relying on friends and family's advises just to make us a little bit better in hopes to restore our self's in the near future. And this is the time when people in general start feeling free to give advises (most likely things they need to do themselves or they secretly want to do these things) Join a class! GO OUT! Put a dress and a lipstick on! Meet new people! Find new hobbies! And so on and on... I find this quite exhausting, to be honest. If you want to do these things by all means DO but if you don't then DON'T do it just to make other people happier and validated through you. Most people look for soothing outside of themselves rather than INSIDE themselves. I see it as wound underneath the plaster we mask it so it's not there and if we take it off and look at it and it needs to be disinfected so it does not get infected that stings and stings like hell! To be honest 2018 was crazy for me and I could not wait until the end of it. However, I ended up showing gratitude and appreciating for the last year in the end. I am grateful for the lessons 2018 has given me. One of them is doing what I WANT to do not others. I am still learning to say no and not feeling bad about it. How many times I have said yes to things I did not want to do just to please others? Just because I felt I should do it ... HUNDREDS!!! I think most of us do that just because we feel validated by others... It's kind of shooting own-self in the foot. We live our lives through others so when are we going to start living our own life? So that was really turning point for me realising I want to live my own life and this is then I stopped giving advises to people and started looking for what I want to do. And I realised I will disappoint people along the way by not doing what they want me to do in my life. Advise is a reflection of the giver not of the taker. Of course, it's different than we seek to learn and get information about something with genuine interest or share the same values. But if people don't ask for advice... THEY DON'T NEED ONE!
I had loads of ideas of which direction my blog is going to go and things I want to write but today I just felt an urge to write this. I wasn't sure how it is going to turn out but this is me doing spontaneously what I want to do without overthinking. I guess what I wanted to say by this I choose to be validated by ME and my wishes for others for 2019 to stop giving pieces of advice :)
With LOVE, Justina
I had loads of ideas of which direction my blog is going to go and things I want to write but today I just felt an urge to write this. I wasn't sure how it is going to turn out but this is me doing spontaneously what I want to do without overthinking. I guess what I wanted to say by this I choose to be validated by ME and my wishes for others for 2019 to stop giving pieces of advice :)
With LOVE, Justina
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