Miss Selfridge

Monday, 27 May 2019

Self Love: doing something for yourself



 Self Love becoming quite a topic of mine. I have written blog post before about Self Love called: Self Love : life without guilt or shame, self doubt or never being good enough. I was having a drink with a friend last night and felt quite an advocate for femininity, self love, self respect, looking after yourself and counting yourself accountable for own choices. Then I use word yourself I mean each and everyone including me. Life is all about choices we have tough days, tough weeks or even tough years but in the end of the day we decide how we going to get through it! Last couple of weeks wasn't easy for me but I wake up every morning making that choice not always easy but a choice to have a good day anyway. I am showing gratitude and appreciation on opportunities coming my way. It is something to be exited about right?! 
For example I am grateful that  Joseph&Stacey gifted me this beautiful super trendy bag of my choice to write a review about it. I just want to say big Thank You I love it and it was super nice and easy to collaborate with you guys! This bag suits me and my style so well basically I am also grateful that I have good taste! I also had a hair cut. I always tend to cut my hair short then I need some changes it's something about association with hair cut and loosing weight off the shoulders. 
My main main massage here is that doing something for yourself no matter how big or small it is, does not mean spending money it could be writing yourself a love letter, meditating, having a walk, taking a long bath or dancing by yourself with a set intention: I am doing this for me as I love myself makes all the difference. I think it is path to happier and healthier life no matter how bumpy road is.

With Love


Monday, 15 April 2019

Feminine Feminist. BYE BYE BRAS.



 This blog post has been brewing for a while most likely just over 2 years. About two years ago I said bye bye little sucker to my BRA! In two years I can't say that I have never wore it but it is definitely been a very few times. It has started after watching documentary about breast health and how bras squashes lymph nodes around the breasts and ditching a bra and reducing wearing time reduces risk to get breast cancer. ( I am not mentioning documentary and can't say this is a fact and this blog post is not about this documentary it is just how it started ;) ) So after watching this documentary my mind was just questioning it all. I thought to myself I could reduce bra time so I started wearing less at home and started not wearing it during weekends. At a time I was feeling soooooooo self conscious I thought everyone can see that I am not wearing bra and that everyone  KNOWS. I use to ask my partner at the time how does it look? Can he tell? Do my boobs look OK?!.... Now it is quite funny for me.  Do my boobs look OK?! What sort of question is that :))? I know the answer now myself THEY ARE FUCKING BEAUTIFUL!  It was most likely quite annoying for him at a time for me to bombard him with so many self conscious questions. Luckily I am far away from feeling this way. The weird thing was then I first started leaving bra on a weekends at home I felt so naked and breast felt bouncy rolling all around not being in place you know the feeling right? It was just weird unusual and quite embarrassing in some ways. After several weekends I thought OK I could potentially go to work without bra :))  and I was freaking out at the time but I wanted to do it I knew it was the way to go for me. Imagine how would you feel going to work and leaving a BRA at home? How do you feel about this idea..? I wear fully covering appropriate clothing and it should not ever been a problem leaving a bra at home but it is. It is somehow expected of women to wear bras right? Why? Really why so that boobs don't bounce? It is totally natural for breasts to bounce it is completely natural body part why to strap it like that? Of course there is that we want to boost them look higher than they actually are it is kind of misleading isn't it but this blog post is not about this either :). Anyway, slowly I have started not wearing bras at work and pretty much stopped wearing it all together.  Then a weird thing happened, my breasts feels exactly the same way if I would wear a bra, now I feel no different than before, actually I think they are sturdier than it used to be. Underneath breasts there are muscles. It is not logical if muscles are continuously resting on the bra how is it supposed to work? I can assure you I have no negative affects ditching bra away only positive full stop. :)

If I put my bra on I can't wait to get it off as it is soooo uncomfortable! And that leads me to my childhood memory how I got my first bra YEEY:)))). Do you remember your story? I was probably about age 10-12 I was totally comfortable not something I was thinking about so basically I got pointed out by someone that my breasts are showing and I should start wearing bras. Yep that's embarrassing!!! People are cruel without knowing it. So I went home all embarrassed that I haven't got bra on and that my small boobies which at a time was just starting to show was too big not to get extra coverage. So in a way I got shamed and that's something needs to be hidden. So I convinced my Mama that I need a bra as I remember she didn't think I needed one yet not even sales assistant in the shop I got size 0 but you know it's started showing and people noticed so I had to get one there was no other way nor that there is now you got pair sticking out so you got wear one right? And I remember getting use to wearing bras took time it was uncomfortable until I could not live without one for about 15 years! I understand that now times are different and most likely girls can't wait to put one on as they are such a cute accessory. I don't wear bras but I can't say they don't appeal to me they definitely marketed the right way that's for sure as it has so much sex appeal and sex sells as we know.

Nipple is another funny thing especially on Instagram. If man and women would take a picture topless man can show their nipples as much as they like right? But if women  show their nipples oh no no no hell no we can't it would definitely get blocked by Instagram. So what's the difference? Everyone got nipples in different sizes, colours and shapes so why on earth women have to hide theirs? Nipple is a nipple we all have them! If you haven't seen one have a look at your chest feel free to explore it further might discover something... a NIPPLE! :)


Where I am going with this blog post is about self acceptance without body shame. I am not saying that everyone should stop wearing one I know it won't happen I just want people to look at it from different perspective maybe you will realise you do't need one as it is not essential and actually not important at all and we are just simply conditioned into wearing one. WE HAVE THE CHOICE! To be fear I never knew it was optional not to wear one as I was made to believe I have to wear one. Now, I have made conscious choice not to. As we know everything is a choice we just unaware of them.  
How did I come by to write this blog post? I got inspired actually at work. I was just telling my 3 female colleges that I bought quite expensive knickers and they told me I could have got whole set with a bra for that much and I simply said I don't wear bras! They looked quite surprised and I asked if they noticed and of course they said Noooo :). And as you can imagine I was asked few questions and comments like that breasts will go down. Well they will go down with bra or without one it's only natural for that I suppose only surgery would help. It was quite fun conversation and few years’ back I would have been surprised myself, how someone can not wear bra!!! Well, things definitely have change!
My blog title came from talking with my male friend about this upcoming blog post. We talked freely about pretty much everything which is supper fun! And I am all about being body positive. Embracing my femininity (it is a super power just saying :) )  and encouraging others to do the same. Finding inner peace and self acceptance and accepting that we are different from man and from other women none of us ever the same and embracing the differences and celebrating it, but don't mistaken that for not being feminist. I do stand for female rights and living without shame. I guess that could be whole new blog post on the subject. I just wanted to cover the title a little bit.

Final thoughts on the subject, I hope after reading this short article you will be open  to the idea that we were all conditioned to wear bras and made self  conscious if we haven't got one which is totally wrong on so many different levels for instance that as females we should be hiding our goods. Just to let you know they are there for the reason :) Anyway whatever you take away from reading this, know that everyone has a choice in EVERYTHING. 

With LOVE, 
Justina

Tuesday, 5 March 2019

Spring Outfit and the MOONSTONE



Spring Outfit blog post is going to be quite different from last couple of posts and what I am planning to write:) I am giving a little hint here! I got loads of ideas recently! I think they are amazing but I got to keep a little secret here:) ( because it's not quite ready yet :) but I like a little bit of tease .. so hey ho:). This is my favourite outfit at the moment. Probably, because I have been embracing my sexy cool self a lot lately. :) I have been looking into crystals and crystal properties and my moonstone necklace is my current favourite accessory. I got it for myself to celebrate my periods but in the end I loved it so much so I started wearing it everyday.  
Suddenly, I just remembered that I have written a blog post on periods before so I think I will need to write another one soon as I got completely new perspective on the subject! That's exiting! Just came up with a new idea on future blog post even though I was going to keep this one super light and simple :)


Just a little bit on Moonstones and then BYE BYE for now. They come in few different colours and I think mine comes on the pink moonstone category ( I am not an expert I might be wrong ) . I think all women should wear or have moonstone in their life's as it has deeply feminine energy about it. Helps to bring balance. improves confidence and apparently its a master healer for women. And the main thing is it is super cute! :) 



Saturday, 2 March 2019

When Dreams Are Born


I just wanted to share a little experience I had  it is little but at the same time it is huge! I have been having lots of ideas here and there what I should do but it never came together as one piece. Recently, I have stopped rushing  just taking things as it is and accepting myself and lots of aspects of my life. And let me tell you it has been quite a journey and weird enough I am happy to get on this life's road as it comes and bit by bit I started putting my puzzle together. And one of these days there I could of been doing anything I chose to spent time with myself  and just doing my own thing reading, listening to music, watching YouTube channel that my friend sent to me and then in that peace and silence finally my idea was born! I finally have a clear vision with no frustration with myself why I can't figure it out. It just came and I welcomed it! I was so happy that I got dancing and crying from relief and joy! It was such a special moment I felt like I got into my enlightenment at that specific moment. Now, I just need to be brave. I am brave and so are you. We all just need to see that and our dreams will come true.

LOVE


Sunday, 17 February 2019

Self Love : life without guilt or shame, self doubt or never being good enough


Self Love and being authentic blog post was going to be something else. I was going to write about responsibilities :). Responsibilities blog post is definitely going to happen but I am just maturing for it at the moment. What I realised which we all know but don't really think about it that the ONLY person who is going have to live with us all our lives is ourselves so we might get along with oneself and show some love. I started to believe if we don't love ourselves we simply aren't capable loving overs. Self love is most important love we can give. And the sad thing is that there are so much inspiration around self love and self care which people do relate but in a way that shows that where is lack of it in most of us. You know I was taking about self love at work when I was asked what personality trait I would like to have of somebody (or some sort of similar question can't really remember exactly) I answered that I like myself and that I love myself and I would like to be myself :) Well, at that point I felt like I am coming across as narcissistic bitch who is in love with herself. But lets face it should be true for each and everyone of us. I should come first before you. When I started loving myself more (I am still in the process)  weird thing happened I started loving others more I started feeling less judgemental I started being more understanding and accepting of others. I feel like if I don't understand myself how can I understand others...? Does it not apply to all of us...?

  I am not talking about self love as seeing ourselves through pink glasses. I am talking about accepting  ourselves as we are, with full awareness but no judgement. When we look at ourselves we might don't like what we see, we might want to hide from it and suppress the bad traits, we might even discover that what we been told never been truth for us. Self Love : life without guilt or shame, self doubt or never being good enough. Isn't that good thing a good life...? Sprinkling joy and love on us and all around us :) I feel like I would never judge anyone if someone would say loud and clear to everyone as bluntly as : ''I love myself so much''! :) would you judge them if we all know that we need to love ourselves? LOVE is a basic need for everyone it's like an air we breath  so why don't we give it to the most important human and the rest will feel it too.

Love and peace to all of you! I think I will definitely write about this topic again as I forgot half of what I was going to say but I am sure it will come back to me:)

Love, Justina

Photo credits: Vilcinskaite Photo

Sunday, 6 January 2019

WHEN LIFE FALLS APART

When life falls apart some would say: ''if life gives you lemons make lemonade''.... Probably when life falls apart we start looking for inspiration  quotes and looking and doing everything to make us feel better and happier. Looking for something or anything...  drinking and going out and relying on friends and family's advises just to make us a little bit better in hopes to restore our self's in the near future. And this is the time when people in general start feeling free to give advises (most likely things they need to do themselves or they secretly want to do these things) Join a class! GO OUT!  Put a dress and a lipstick on! Meet new people! Find new hobbies! And so on and on... I find this quite exhausting to be honest. If you want to do these thing by all means DO but if you don't than DON'T do it just to make other people happier and validated through you.  Most people look for soothing outside of themselves rather than INSIDE themselves.  I see it as wound underneath the plaster we mask it so it's not there and if we take it of and look at it and it needs to be disinfected so it does not get infected that stings and stings like hell! To be honest 2018 was crazy for me and I could not wait until the end of it. However, I ended up showing gratitude and appreciating for the last year in the end. I am grateful for the lessons 2018 has given me. One of them is doing what I WANT to do not others. I am still learning to say no and not feeling bad about it. How many times i have said yes to things i did not want to do just to please others? Just because I felt I should do it ... HUNDREDS!!! I think most of us do that just because we feel validated by others... It's kind of shooting own-self in the foot. We living our life through others so when are we going to start living our own life? So that was really turning point for me realising I want to live  my own life and this is than I stopped giving advises to people and started looking for what I want to do. And I realised I will disappoint people along the way by not doing what they want me to do in my life. Advise is a reflection of the giver not of the taker. Of course it's different than we seek to learn and get information of something with genuine interest or share same values. But if people don't asked for advise... THEY DON'T NEED ONE!
I had loads of ideas of which direction my blog is going to go and things I want to write but today I just felt an urge to write this. I wasn't sure how it is going to turn out but this is me doing spontaneously what I want to do without overthinking. I guess what I wanted to say by this I choose to be validated by ME and my wishes for others for 2019 to stop giving advises :)

With LOVE, Justina