Miss Selfridge

Monday, 15 April 2019

Feminine Feminist. BYE BYE BRAS.

 This blog post has been brewing for a while most likely just over 2 years. About two years ago I said bye-bye little sucker to my BRA! In two years I can't say that I have never worn it but it is definitely been a very few times. It has started after watching a documentary about breast health and how bras to squash lymph nodes around the breasts and ditching a bra and reducing wearing time reduces risk to get breast cancer. ( I am not mentioning documentary and can't say this is a fact and this blog post is not about this documentary it is just how it started ;) ) So after watching this documentary my mind was just questioning it all. I thought to myself I could reduce bra time so I started wearing less at home and started not wearing it during weekends. At a time I was feeling soooooooo self-conscious I thought everyone can see that I am not wearing a bra and that everyone  KNOWS. I use to ask my partner at the time how does it look? Can he tell? Do my boobs look OK?!.... Now it is quite funny for me.  Do my boobs look OK?! What sort of question is that :))? I know the answer now myself THEY ARE FUCKING BEAUTIFUL!  It was most likely quite annoying for him at a time for me to bombard him with so many self-conscious questions. Luckily I am far away from feeling this way. The weird thing was then I first started leaving the bra on weekends at home I felt so naked and breast felt bouncy rolling all around not being in a place you know the feeling right? It was just weird unusual and quite embarrassing in some ways. After several weekends I thought OK I could potentially go to work without bra :))  and I was freaking out at the time but I wanted to do it I knew it was the way to go for me. Imagine how would you feel going to work and leaving a BRA at home? How do you feel about this idea..? I wear fully covering appropriate clothing and it should not ever be a problem leaving a bra at home but it is. It is somehow expected of women to wear bras right? Why? Really why so that boobs don't bounce? It is totally natural for breasts to bounce it is a completely natural body part why to strap it like that? Of course, there is that we want to boost them look higher than they actually are it is kind of misleading isn't it but this blog post is not about this either :). Anyway, slowly I have started not wearing bras at work and pretty much stopped wearing it all together.  Then a weird thing happened, my breasts feel exactly the same way if I would wear a bra, now I feel no different than before, actually, I think they are sturdier than it used to be. Underneath breasts there are muscles. It is not logical if muscles are continuously resting on the bra how is it supposed to work? I can assure you I have no negative affects ditching bra away only positive full stop. :)

If I put my bra on I can't wait to get it off as it is soooo uncomfortable! And that leads me to my childhood memory how I got my first bra YEEY:)))). Do you remember your story? I was probably about age 10-12 I was totally comfortable not something I was thinking about so basically I got pointed out by someone that my breasts are showing and I should start wearing bras. Yep, that's embarrassing!!! People are cruel without knowing it. So I went home all embarrassed that I haven't got a bra on and that my small boobies which at a time was just starting to show were too big not to get extra coverage. So in a way, I got shamed and that's something needs to be hidden. So I convinced my Mama that I need a bra as I remember she didn't think I needed one yet not even sales assistant in the shop I got size 0 but you know it's started showing and people noticed so I had to get one there was no other way nor that there is now you got pair sticking out so you got to wear one right? And I remember getting used to wearing bras took the time it was uncomfortable until I could not live without one for about 15 years! I understand that now times are different and most likely girls can't wait to put one on as they are such a cute accessory. I don't wear bras but I can't say they don't appeal to me they definitely marketed the right way that's for sure as it has so much sex appeal and sex sells as we know.

The nipple is another funny thing, especially on Instagram. If man and women would take a picture topless man can show their nipples as much as they like right? But if women show their nipples oh no no no hell no we can't it would definitely get blocked by Instagram. So what's the difference? Everyone got nipples in different sizes, colours and shapes so why on earth women have to hide theirs? The nipple is a nipple we all have them! If you haven't seen one have a look at your chest feel free to explore it further might discover something... a NIPPLE! :)

Where I am going with this blog post is about self acceptance without body shame. I am not saying that everyone should stop wearing one I know it won't happen I just want people to look at it from different perspective maybe you will realise you do't need one as it is not essential and actually not important at all and we are just simply conditioned into wearing one. WE HAVE THE CHOICE! To be fear I never knew it was optional not to wear one as I was made to believe I have to wear one. Now, I have made conscious choice not to. As we know everything is a choice we just unaware of them.  
How did I come by to write this blog post? I got inspired actually at work. I was just telling my 3 female colleges that I bought quite expensive knickers and they told me I could have got whole set with a bra for that much and I simply said I don't wear bras! They looked quite surprised and I asked if they noticed and of course they said Noooo :). And as you can imagine I was asked few questions and comments like that breasts will go down. Well they will go down with bra or without one it's only natural for that I suppose only surgery would help. It was quite fun conversation and few years’ back I would have been surprised myself, how someone can not wear bra!!! Well, things definitely have change!
My blog title came from talking with my male friend about this upcoming blog post. We talked freely about pretty much everything which is supper fun! And I am all about being body positive. Embracing my femininity (it is a super power just saying :) )  and encouraging others to do the same. Finding inner peace and self acceptance and accepting that we are different from man and from other women none of us ever the same and embracing the differences and celebrating it, but don't mistaken that for not being feminist. I do stand for female rights and living without shame. I guess that could be whole new blog post on the subject. I just wanted to cover the title a little bit.

Final thoughts on the subject, I hope after reading this short article you will be open  to the idea that we were all conditioned to wear bras and made self  conscious if we haven't got one which is totally wrong on so many different levels for instance that as females we should be hiding our goods. Just to let you know they are there for the reason :) Anyway whatever you take away from reading this, know that everyone has a choice in EVERYTHING. 

With LOVE, 


  1. I love this post! Your takes on body positivity and on gender-based discrimination are excellent and insightful.
    The way Instagram and Facebook have discriminated against women is horrible.
    I live in the State of New York, where New York's highest court, the Court of Appeals, ruled in 1990 that it is legal for women to go topless - that the gender based discrimination you referred to is not legal. Unfortunately that did not not stop the continuing discrimination.
    I male-model and review women's full briefs on my blog and on YouTube and have been frequently discriminated against.
    Kudos to you for your bravery. You are truly beautiful both in mind and in body.
    P.S.: I love your photos. Being a lingerie fashion blogger who reviews full brief panties, I'm dying to know the brand and style of full briefs you were modelling in the photos above. They look pretty.